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*4 Hormones* which determine a *human's happiness.* Worth reading

*Dear friends ...*
As I sat in the park *after* my *morning walk,*
My padosan came and slumped next to me.
*She had completed* her 30-minute jog. *We chatted* for a while. She said *she is not happy* in life. I looked up at her sheer disbelief since she seemed to have the best of everything in life.
*"Why do you think so?"*
"I don't know. Everyone tells I have everything needed, *but I am not happy.*
"Then I questioned myself, *am I happy? "No,"* was my inner voice reply.
Now, that was an *eye-opener for me.*
I began my quest to *understand the real cause* of my *unhappiness,*
I couldn't find one.

I dug deeper, *read articles,* spoke to life coaches but nothing made sense.
*At last my doctor* friend gave me the answer which put all my questions and doubts to rest.
*I implemented* those and will say I am *a lot happier person.*

She said, *there are four hormones* which determine a *human's happiness -*
1. *Endorphins,*
2. *Dopamine,*
3. *Serotonin,*
and
4. *Oxytocin.*
It is important we *understand these hormones,*
as we *need all four* of them *to stay happy.*

Let's look at the *first hormone* the *Endorphins.*
*When we exercise, the body releases Endorphins.*
This hormone helps the body cope with the pain of exercising. We then *enjoy exercising* because these Endorphins will make us happy.
*Laughter is* another good way of *generating Endorphins.*
We need to spend *30 minutes exercising* every day, read or *watch funny stuff* to get our day's dose of Endorphins.

*The second hormone is Dopamine.*
In our journey of life, we accomplish many *small and big tasks, it releases* various levels of *Dopamine.*
*When we get appreciated for our work at the office or at home,* we feel accomplished and good, that is *because it releases Dopamine.*
This also explains *why* most *housewives* are *unhappy* since they *rarely* get *acknowledged* or appreciated *for their work.* Once, we join work, we *buy* a car, a house, the latest gadgets, a *new house* so forth. In each instance, it *releases Dopamine* and we become happy.
Now, do we realize why we become happy when we shop?

*The third hormone Serotonin* is released when we *act in a way that benefits others.*
When we transcend ourselves and give back to others or *to nature or to the society, it releases Serotonin.* Even,
providing useful information on the internet like *writing information* blogs, answering peoples questions on Quora or *Facebook groups will generate Serotonin.*
That is *because* we will use our *precious time to help other* people via our answers or articles.

*The final hormone is Oxytocin,*
is released *when* we become *close to other human* beings.
When we *hug our friends* or family *Oxytocin is released.*
The *"Jadoo Ki Jhappi"* from Munnabhai *does really work.*
Similarly, when we *shake hands* or put our *arms around* someone's shoulders, various amounts of *Oxytocin is released.*

So, it is simple, we have to *exercise every day* to get *Endorphins,*
we have to *accomplish* little *goals* and get *Dopamine,*
we *need to* be *nice* to others to *get Serotonin* and
finally *hug our kids,*
friends, and families to *get Oxytocin* and we will *be happy.*
*When we are happy, we can deal* with our challenges and *problems better.*

Now, we can understand *why we need to hug a child who has a bad mood.*

So to.
*make your child* more and more *happy* day by day ...

1.*Motivate him to play* on the ground
*-Endorphins*

2. *Appreciate your child* for his small big achievements
*-Dopamine*

3. *inculcate sharing* habit through you to your child
*-Serotonin*

4. *Hug* your child
*-Oxytocin*

*Have a Happy Life*.🙂
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If you collect 100 Black Ants and 100 Red ants and put them in a glass jar nothing will happen as they know how to Co-exist.

But if you take the Jar, shake it violently and leave it on a table.
The ants will start killing each other.
As Reds believe that black is the enemy while black believes that red is the enemy; When the Real Enemy is the person who shook the jar.

The same is true in society.

Men vs Women,
Black vs White,
Left vs Right,
Rich vs Poor,
Hindus vs Muslims,
Faith vs Science,
Gossip, Rumors, Controversies etc..

Before we Fight with each other,
we must ask ourselves:---
Who Rocked the Jar?
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*The qualification that gave you a job, is the same qualification someone has who still does not have a job.*
*Be grateful.* 🙏🙏🙏

*The prayer that God answered for you, is the same prayer others have been praying but without success.*
*Be grateful.*🙏🙏🙏

*The road you use safely on a daily basis, is the same road where many others lost their precious lives.*
*Be grateful.*🙏🙏🙏

*The house of worship in which God blessed you, is the same house other people too worship in, yet their lives are still in discord.*
*Be grateful.*🙏🙏🙏

*The bed you used in the hospital, you got healed and were discharged, is the same bed many other people breathed their last.*
*Be grateful.*🙏🙏🙏

*The rain that made your field produce good crops, is the same rain that devastated someone else's field.*
*Be grateful.*🙏🙏🙏

*Be grateful because whatever you have is not by your power, your might, your talent or your qualifications, but it's just the "Grace of God." HE is the giver of everything you have.*🙏🙏🙏

*For everything you have, be grateful...*🙏🙏🙏
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बिना पैसे की मुफ्त सलाह।
डॉक्टर कभी भी नहीं बताएगा आप से फीस पर फीस लेता रहेगा मगर माजरा कुछ और हैं पढ़िए।

सभी *वरिष्ठ नागरिक* (55 से ऊपर की उम्र के) कृपया अवश्य पढ़ें, हो सकता है आपके लिए फायदेमंद हो ..
*आप जानते हैं कि मन चाहे कितना ही जोशीला हो पर साठ की उम्र पार होने पर यदि आप अपनेआप को फुर्तीला और ताकतवर समझते हों तो यह गलत है। वास्तव में ढलती उम्र के साथ शरीर उतना ताकतवर और फुर्तीला नहीं रह जाता।*
आपका शरीर ढलान पर होता है, जिससे ‘हड्डियां व जोड़ कमजोर होते हैं, पर *कभी-कभी मन भ्रम बनाए रखता है कि ‘ये काम तो मैं चुटकी में कर लूँगा’।* पर बहुत जल्दी सच्चाई सामने आ जाती है मगर एक नुकसान के साथ।
सीनियर सिटिजन होने पर जिन बातों का ध्यान रखा जाना चाहिए, ऐसी कुछ टिप्स दे रहा हूं।
-- *धोखा तभी होता है जब मन सोचता है कि ‘कर लूंगा’ और शरीर करने से ‘चूक’ जाता है। परिणाम एक एक्सीडेंट और शारीरिक क्षति*
ये क्षति फ्रैक्चर से लेकर ‘हेड इंज्यूरी’ तक हो सकती है। यानी कभी-कभी जानलेवा भी हो जाती है।
-- *इसलिए जिन्हें भी हमेशा हड़बड़ी में काम करने की आदत हो, बेहतर होगा कि वे अपनी आदतें बदल डालें।*
*भ्रम न पालें, सावधानी बरतें क्योंकि अब आप पहले की तरह फुर्तीले नहीं रहे।*
छोटी सी चूक कभी बड़े नुक़सान का कारण बन जाती है।
-- *सुबह नींद खुलते ही तुरंत बिस्तर छोड़ खड़े न हों, क्योंकि आँखें तो खुल जाती हैं मगर शरीर व नसों का रक्त प्रवाह पूर्ण चेतन्य अवस्था में नहीं हो पाता ।*
अतः पहले बिस्तर पर कुछ मिनट बैठे रहें और पूरी तरह चैतन्य हो लें। कोशिश करें कि बैठे-बैठे ही स्लीपर/चप्पलें पैर में डाल लें और खड़े होने पर मेज या किसी सहारे को पकड़कर ही खड़े हों। अक्सर यही समय होता है डगमगाकर गिर जाने का।
-- गिरने की सबसे ज्यादा घटनाएं बाथरुम/वॉशरुम या टॉयलेट में ही होती हैं। आप चाहे अकेले हों, पति/पत्नी के साथ या संयुक्त परिवार में रहते हों लेकिन बाथरुम में अकेले ही होते हैं।
-- *यदि आप घर में अकेले रहते हों, तो और अधिक सावधानी बरतें क्योंकि गिरने पर यदि उठ न सके तो दरवाजा तोड़कर ही आप तक सहायता पहुँच सकेगी, वह भी तब जब आप पड़ोसी तक समय से सूचना पहुँचाने में सफल हो सकेंगे।*
— *याद रखें बाथरुम में भी मोबाइल साथ हो ताकि वक्त जरुरत काम आ सके।*
-- देशी शौचालय के बजाय हमेशा यूरोपियन कमोड वाले शौचालय का ही इस्तेमाल करें। यदि न हो तो समय रहते बदलवा लें, इसकी तो जरुरत पड़नी ही है, अभी नहीं तो कुछ समय बाद।
संभव हो तो कमोड के पास एक हैंडिल लगवा लें। कमजोरी की स्थिति में इसे पकड़ कर उठने के लिए ये जरूरी हो जाता है।
बाजार में प्लास्टिक के वेक्यूम हैंडिल भी मिलते हैं, जो टॉइल जैसी चिकनी सतह पर चिपक जाते हैं, पर *इन्हें हर बार इस्तेमाल से पहले खींचकर जरूर जांच-परख लें।*
-- *हमेशा आवश्यक ऊँचे स्टूल पर बैठकर ही नहायें।*
बाथरुम के फर्श पर रबर की मैट जरूर बिछाकर रखें ताकि आप फिसलन से बच सकें।
-- *गीले हाथों से टाइल्स लगी दीवार का सहारा कभी न लें, हाथ फिसलते ही आप ‘डिस-बैलेंस’ होकर गिर सकते हैं।*
-- बाथरुम के ठीक बाहर सूती मैट भी रखें जो गीले तलवों से पानी सोख ले। कुछ सेकेण्ड उस पर खड़े रहें फिर फर्श पर पैर रखें वो भी सावधानी से।
-- *अंडरगारमेंट हों या कपड़े, अपने चेंजरूम या बेडरूम में ही पहनें। अंडरवियर, पाजामा या पैंट खडे़-खडे़ कभी नहीं पहनें।*
हमेशा दीवार का सहारा लेकर या बैठकर ही उनके पायचों में पैर डालें, फिर खड़े होकर पहनें, वर्ना दुर्घटना घट सकती है।
*कभी-कभी स्मार्टनेस की बड़ी कीमत चुकानी पड़ जाती है।*
-- अपनी दैनिक जरुरत की चीजों को नियत जगह पर ही रखने की आदत डाल लें, जिससे उन्हें आसानी से उठाया या तलाशा जा सके।
*भूलने की आदत हो, तो आवश्यक चीजों की लिस्ट मेज या दीवार पर लगा लें, घर से निकलते समय एक निगाह उस पर डाल लें, आसानी रहेगी*
-- जो दवाएं रोजाना लेनी हों, उनको प्लास्टिक के प्लॉनर में रखें जिससे जुड़ी हुई डिब्बियों में हफ्ते भर की दवाएँ दिन-वार के साथ रखी जाती हैं।
*अक्सर भ्रम हो जाता है कि दवाएं ले ली हैं या भूल गये।प्लॉनर में से दवा खाने में चूक नहीं होगी।*
-- *सीढ़ियों से चढ़ते उतरते समय, सक्षम होने पर भी, हमेशा रेलिंग का सहारा लें, खासकर ऑटोमैटिक सीढ़ियों पर।*
ध्यान रहे अब आपका शरीर आपके मन का *ओबिडियेंट सरवेन्ट* नहीं रहा।
— बढ़ती आयु में कोई भी ऐसा कार्य जो आप सदैव करते रहे हैं, उसको बन्द नहीं करना चाहिए।
कम से कम अपने से सम्बन्धित अपने कार्य स्वयं ही करें।
— *नित्य प्रातःकाल घर से बाहर निकलने, पार्क में जाने की आदत न छोड़ें, छोटी मोटी एक्सरसाइज भी करते रहें। नहीं तो आप योग व व्यायाम से दूर होते जाएंगे और शरीर के अंगों की सक्रियता और लचीला पन कम होता जाएगा। हर मौसम में कुछ योग-प्राणायाम अवश्य करते रहें।*
— *घर में या बाहर हुकुम चलाने की आदत छोड़ दें। अपना पानी, भोजन, दवाई इत्यादि स्वयं लें जिससे शरीर में सक्रियता बनी रहे।*
बहुत आवश्यक होने पर ही दूसरों की सहायता लेनी चाहिए।
— *घर में छोटे बच्चे हों तो उनके साथ अधिक समय बिताएं, लेकिन उनको अधिक टोका-टाकी न करें। उनको प्यार से सिखायें।*
-- *ध्यान रखें कि अब आपको सब के साथ एडजस्ट करना है न कि सब को आपसे।*
-- इस एडजस्ट होने के लिए चाहे, बड़ा परिवार हो, छोटा परिवार हो या कि पत्नी/पति हो, मित्र हो, पड़ोसी या समाज।
*एक मूल मंत्र सदैव उपयोग करें।*
1. *नोन* अर्थात नमक। भोजन के प्रति स्वाद पर नियंत्रण रखें।
2. *मौन* कम से कम एवं आवश्यकता पर ही बोलें।
3. *कौन* (मसलन कौन आया कौन गया, कौन कहां है, कौन क्या कर रहा है) अपनी दखलंदाजी कम कर दें।
*नोन, मौन, कौन* के मूल मंत्र को जीवन में उतारते ही *वृद्धावस्था* वरदान बन जाएगी जिसको बहुत कम लोग ही उपभोग कर पाते हैं।
*कितने भाग्यशाली हैं आप, इसको समझें।*
*कृपया इस संदेश को अपने घर, रिश्तेदारों, आसप
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A LESSON TO LEARN

*Takecare of them like a child like they took care of you in your childhood*

A lovely story I enjoyed reading:

*"Amma, I am going to the Mall along with my wife and daughter. Please take care of the house."*

*"OK son. You go ahead. Already my legs are aching. I am not interested in coming to the mall. You go ahead."*

*"Grandma, you should also come"* insisted the grand daughter ...

*"Grandma cannot climb all those steps in the mall. She does not know how to use the escalator.* As there are no temples there, Grandma will not be interested. She is interested only in going to temples," said the daughter in law.

Though Grandma nodded in agreement the grand daughter was adamant. She refused to come to the mall if Grandma was not coming. *Though Grandma repeated that she was not interested, she could not stand her ground against her dear ten year old granddaughter.* She agreed to accompany them.

The granddaughter was very happy. Father asked everyone to get dressed up. *Before her parents could get ready, the oldest and the youngest were ready.*

The youngster took her grandma to the front room. *She drew two parallel lines, a foot apart. She told her grandmother that it was a game and the old lady had to pretend that she was a crane (the bird).*
She had to keep one leg within the lines and raise the other leg by three inches.

" What is this my dear?" asked Grandma...
*" This is the Crane game Grandma. I will show you how to play."*

Both of them played a few times before the father could bring the car.... *Grandma became adept in the game.*

They reached the mall and when they reached the escalator, the father and mother were wondering how the elderly lady would master that. *The granddaughter took Grandma near the escalator and asked her to play the Crane game.* Grandma raised her right foot and kept it on one of the moving steps and raised her left leg by three inches and could easily reach the next moving step. This way, *she effortlessly used the escalator to reach the higher level, to the wonder of her son and daughter in law.* With her successful debut, Grandma and the grand daughter moved up and down several times on the escalator and were enjoying the fun.

They then went to the theatre to see a movie. As it was cold inside, granddaughter took out a shawl from her bag and covered the old lady, with a mischievous smile. She had come prepared for this! After the movie, they went to a restaurant. When the son asked his mother what to order, his *daughter took away the menu and thrust it in the hands of Grandma.*

*"You know how to read; better go through the menu and order whatever you want."* Grandma decided the items to be eaten.

Before leaving for home, Grandma went to use the toilet. Using that occasion, *the father asked his daughter how she knew so much about his mother which as a son, he was not aware of.*

Prompt came the response: *"Dad, when a young child is brought out of the home, you make so many preparations - milk bottles, diapers, wipes etc. Your mother would have done all these things for you. Why not show the same consideration for your mother?* Why did you presume that the elderly would be interested only in temples. They also have normal desires like going out and enjoying all the fun. Since they do not openly express it, we have to coax them to speak up."

*The father was speechless.* However he was happy to learn a new lesson from his ten year old daughter...
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